
Dec 30, 2013, 03:50 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2013
Location: East Bay, California
Posts: 61
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Just reminded myself, about myself, about this time, last year. So, I'd been having this on-line friendship, that had spanned years and thousands of emails. And he'd written me, this poem, and exclaimed wanting to be closer to me. And I was at a point, in my life, where I felt ready to have a relationship. (my marriage had drained my desire to rush back into the fray). So, I mentioned to this email friend, ok, why not?! We seemed compatible, really in tune with one another, and this would have been the next step in natural progression.
What does he say?! Oh, we can set up a way to have cyber sex, but lets be open to the idea, that we can date others that live local  
I said, um, I am not going to do anything of that nature, without at least meeting in person, and making sure that we are, indeed, compatible. I must admit, he wrote back, exclaiming shame for asking. But it came to the surface, that there was no way, he'd ever entertain the notion of a long distance relationship. Then, come to find out, he was already dating someone local at that point. May have been a drunken email/poem to myself, was my conclusion.
There's much to learn from every experience. I am just adding this part of my life story, to give you perspective, that we can learn much from these types of experiences, where we share photos like this.
And, eventually, we can move into a healthy relationship. My new relationship. The most risqué thing, that exists, as he said, to me, the other night, wow, you could actually wear that to the beach. Exactly  I could actually wear that out of the house. The risqué was the little curvature of my hip.
We learn from this, hun!! We learn!
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You were smart to state what you wanted! If I had thought of doing that, instead of thinking that someone else would react to, and think the way I do I would have saved myself from all the time and energy I wasted on thinking that something existed that didn't!
On beleiving that what I shared had any value...other than stimulating his sexual needs! I being a woman, thought it had cerebral value too, but of course, it didn't!
He just knew the words to say - so very very well.
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