I had the same problems my self, well not all of them but a few. I always worried about money, my career, job, future. And ya for awhile they did controle my life and thats all I ever thought about. Now that those problems are behind me I feel better and dont think about them as much. I had a job where I was making enough money in one week to pay for a months amount of bills and was saving for the future. Long story short I left that job for a few personal reasons. Im now at a job where im not making close to what I did before. Point im tryin to get at is that when I was making the most I worried the most and now that im not making as much I seem to be worring less...I know weird but when I was making the money I shouldnt have let it controle me as much. Be happy! Im not making as much but I do what it takes to make my ends meet and you should do the same. There isnt really much we can do to "plan" for life you know? We kinda have to role with things and make it up as we go. With being good parents, what are good parents? Everyone has a idea in what they think good parents should be. Your idea of that is most likely different from someone else but the one thing everyone has incommon is that you want the best for your child and to give them what you didnt have when you were little. Just do what you think is right. My last g/f that I was with for 5 years she did the same thing, she had like the perfect relationship/boyfriend made up in her mind. She was always expecting me to do things as in say " i love you" Its not that I didnt but she expected it all the time, and when I didnt say it when she thought it was the right time for me to say it, it hurt her. I think your going to expect things out of him...like over expect. Let him be his own person and say and do things on his own, and when your least expecting things and he says "I love you" it will mean so much more to you.