Bryan-

Thanks so much- that was such a great post. What you said about money made SO much sense. When I think about it realistically, I know that some of the happiest people I know are not neccessarily the most well-off financially.

And what you said about your ex, that really hit home. That is what my husband says so often. That he can't do things to show his love BECAUSE I am expecting it all the time but in his own ways, in his own time- otherwise it wouldn't be genuine. And the expectations I have of what it means to be "loved" or "in love" or the "perfect couple" are unattainable goals and all that happens is I am constantly feeling let down and he is constantly feeling like he is not enough. So, thank you, thank you, thank you! For your kind words- it helped to hear the other side of things from an outsider.