Why is it that the people who want success, glory, and admiration the most are the ones that don't get it?

Why is it that the people who do get success, glory, and admiration don't even have to try very hard to get it? They can just "be themselves" and everyone just showers them with adoration.

Meanwhile I do everything I can to hide my greedy and self-centered personality from other people but I'm not a good actor. People can tell I'm selfish and insincere. And despite everyone recommending I stop trying to be something I'm not, the fact is that if I don't try, I won't get very far in life.

And meanwhile, I'm a bit angry that many people don't even have to try to be pleasant and intelligent and capable because they are naturally that way, and they criticize people like me for being phonies or egomaniacs for trying so hard to get what comes to them so. . . . freaking . . . easily.

I'd love to feel as pure and successful as they feel.

Why is it so wrong to want to be liked and accepted?