Sometimes, when I look at the def for BPD, I'm like "this is totally me." Then again, I feel that some things that I know that most people who have BPD have are things that I don't struggle with, such as:

A) I've never been suicidal. I've had a brief history of self harm and sometimes have a strong urge to in order to "punish myself" to get over a strong emotion (typically self-loathing), but I can always talk myself out of doing anything with the exception of a slap with a hair brush.
B) this is going to sound bad, but most people that I've met with BPD have done some heinously mean things. I'm not perfect, but I'm not mean.
C) here's the big one: I don't struggle with anger. Sometimes, I get "cold" when I'm mad (which scares people), but my T says that I'm actually better than most people when handling anger in interpersonal situations.
D) I don't mind being single. However, I can't stand if I'm not sleeping with someone.

Then again, I match everything else perfectly. Years ago, I fit the other criteria too. Things used to be so bad that I would dissocsociate while cutting myself (I couldn't remember it, but I could see myself do it as if I was above me), was in an intense abusive relationship, and got drunk every night.

Can anyone relate with not meeting the "big" requirements?