Is he in counseling? Are you? Marriage counseling? Rules sound nice, but as the saying goes, 'rules are made to be broken.'

They say, that people who cheat are 'conflict avoidant.' That may be something to look into.

He's been cheating on and off, for the past 16/17 years. With this summer, being the last time.

You've forgiven him, you state, yet you self-ridicule yourself, with negative name talking of yourself.

How has the communication improved? Do you have kids between you? What brings the two of you, back together, time and again? To say, we love someone is fine and dandy, what's to love of another who thinks so little of your feelings, that they'd turn around and hurt you so many times?