Hi Jon,

I too am I survivor. Patricia's book is great. It does help. I found a guy named Richard Skeritt who is also a survivor, he wrote a bunch of books that are really good as well. I have been astonished of how many men deal with this topic as well.

It is an ugly cycle, and you are still in the beginning. Hang on, you are in for a ride!

The more you read and talk to others the stronger you will be. The abusers do follow
a pattern and they are capable of such ugliness that you need to expect the worst. The level of manipulation and deception that they are willing to go will astonish you.

Also be ready for people to not believe in you. Not many understand, they will not be able to wrap their heads around this. Without broken bones most people do not believe in abuse.

I lost my home, my community, almost all my old friends, and my teenage sons will not speak to me. He also hired "hackers" to invade my communications for 6 months. I lost my 794 credit score(now 525), And identity was stolen.

But I feel better today than I have in so many years. I was married for 20 years to him.

He didn't get me

Be strong