Hi,

I attended my mandatory divorce class last night so that I can finally be legally free from that monster. The state requires everyone who is going through a divorce with kids take this class before I actually have my final papers.

The biggest point that the instructors emphasized was to not place your kids on the middle no matter how old they are.

My x put both of my sons in the middle of our divorce and now they will not speak to me. My 17 year old has not said one word to me on six months. I call everyday, leave text messages, and write letters, still nothing. I have not said one bad word about my x to anyone in the community and definitely not my sons.

I will never give up on them.

I cannot believe the amount of devastation this type of abuser can leave in his wake. I lost my community, my home, and my children due to his manipulation.

He hired a team of professional "hackers" the day I left him. He had to know where I was and what I was doing every second of every day. He paid them $98,000.00 to torment me for 9 months. The damage from that little trick was enormous. I lost my 794 credit score(now 525), I lost thousands of dollars, job offers, and my identity was stolen. He intercepted communications with my children by intercepting text messages.

He waged war

I won, I am free

I will never quit on my kids, and I will never be weak again. I feel better today than I have in so many years and I am stronger than I thought.

Verbal/emotional abuse is serious. It is real. It should not be minimized.