Hi,

I know what it is like to feel like your dreams and wishes are not important. I lived like that for 20 years. Only with the clarity of hindsight do I know what happened to me. I began to loose a little of myself every single day, until one day there want much of me left to hang on to.

I was verbally and emotionally abused for over 20 years and it was almost the end of me. I survived it, but I lost so much as well

I do not know if this is what is happening to you, but you should at least read up on this type of abuse. It is slow, it is confusing, and the people around you will never understand what is happening to you.

It is also very dangerous. It is least reported type of abusers that takes the longest to heal from. The abusers follow a pattern, there are characteristics that they all share, and the victims will suffer extreme damages that follow a similar pattern.

When I left, I felt crazy, and so afraid of everything. All I knew was that I couldn't go home.

You don't need the gory details of the story. Just take a close look at yourself and how you are being treated. Are you treated as an equal? Do you still have goals? Are you worried about his happiness first? Do you feel like you are worthwhile? Does he make you feel worthwhile? Do you protect his image to the community?

Be strong. Dream your dreams. Set goals. Tell him NO! Don't get chipped away until your world falls apart.

I survived. He did not get me, and I can dream again.