Hi, I assume this is quite common.

The T told me a few weeks ago she's been in her own psychotherapy for nearly 17 years. She see's her own psychoanalytic therapist. I did mention that she herself must have gone through all the transference type stuff, and she paused and rather reluctantly replied " um yeah ".

I guess I'm trying to wonder what it's like for this therapist in her personal life, because I know she has a family with very young children, she see's lot's of clients and off course her own psychotherapy, which must be a lot to take on. She also has another job other then being a T, but I don't want to mention it because I feel it's giving away too much information. She works very long hours and get's home late.

I asked her how she was a for months ago I said "are things good for you in life" to which she replied " not really no ".
That got me thinking what was bothering her. I did ask her next session ( this was early November) " what the problem was with her" and she just said at the time " it was just the strains and stresses of life ". " Problems with all have with realationships etc ... ".

Now of course, I put two and two together and may be getting 15, but I immediately assume she's having issues with her BF/ Husband, and her busy life and being a therapist is drifting her realationship with him apart. I also assume he's cheating on her.

It's probably all incorrect, but my immediate thought is not to replace her husband/BF, but to be like a therapist for her.

Also though, I'm having some borderline erotic thoughts of wanting to massage her, and get her to relax and take the stress away from her.