Well, those are all certainly extremely reasonable requests. Does your locale have an active music community that you could mingle with a bit?

Expanding a bit on that, with such a relatively simple list of desires out of a partner and naturally assuming you will be giving your partner the same courtesies in kind, I don't think you'd have much difficulty in maintaining a relationship. But, given your problem is starting step...hmm....

For my benefit, what's your strategy, so to speak, for meeting guys? Meaning in a typical situation, where is it that you would be to meet people?