It's definitely the most important thing for me. I think the only problem with my current therapist is that I like her too much. Who would have thought that was possible? It's really hard for me to put into words, but I met my therapist during a dreadful time of my life and I liked her instantly. 'Like' isn't really a very good word for it, but I don't think there is a word or combination of words to describe my instant reaction to her. It was like I liked her instantly as much as I could like anyone. It was a bit like I knew her already and so her self-disclosure never really surprised me, because it was like I understood who she was already. It was a bit like she was someone I was always supposed to know. She mattered to me, right from the start. The fact that she's now tied into this boundary filled relationship (and I will lose her) and the fact that she doesn't feel the same way about me, and that on top of that she's the first person that has really seen me (and she still doesn't feel that way about me), makes the relationship into something that is as difficult for me as it is good.