I'm actually not sure that learning to have a positive relationship with a therapist is necessarily a good thing (though perhaps it can be). It does not mean anything other than that the T is a good person doing their job well. It does not mean that equally good relationships are possible with people who are not obliged to create relationships as part of their job.

I do agree that it is hard to talk to a T when there is not a good sense of rapport and undestanding and acceptance.