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Originally Posted by Mastodon
I'm actually not sure that learning to have a positive relationship with a therapist is necessarily a good thing (though perhaps it can be). It does not mean anything other than that the T is a good person doing their job well. It does not mean that equally good relationships are possible with people who are not obliged to create relationships as part of their job.
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But this assumes that the client is able to have a good relationship - and for me, that is simply not true. The t's being without needs and wants and foibles puts all the focus on MY deficiencies in the intimacy department. It's like the Seinfeld episode where his girlfriend says she doesn't like pie - who doesn't like pie?! All of a sudden, t shows me pie - there is nothing to complain about the other person - so why am i having difficulty connecting?
I can hear stopdog saying: i dont WANT to connect to this person. That's not my point. That to me is like signing up for a personal trainer then saying you dont want to go to the gym or whatever. So lets assume you are MOTIVATED to connect. Then what are the FEEEEEELINGS that inhibit you? That make it feel bad or dangerous or even just uncomfortable? That's where i am, how i see it.
Monalisa - we posted at the same time! Thanks. Oh yeah, we'll be talking about it!