Agree. My husband feels unloved when I don't cook for him, spend time with him or text him during the nights I work. Seems silly, but it means a lot to him.

He says he feels taken advantage of. That he feels he's only here to pay the bills.

Now those things aren't important to me at all so it's an effort to do them.

Maybe you could sit down and tell her the specifics of what you need.