Well I went to a standard school, I hated it and took a lot of sick leave because of the stress and the overwhelming anxiety I faced about going to school. If I'd known I had AS back then, I would have loved to go to an ASD school simply because it would have been nice to be around other people more like myself.

Home schooling has it's advantages, but a major problem we face by being on the spectrum is missed social skill developments. Being home schooled or in standard school isn't ever going to get him through those developmental stages, whereas a school designed for people on the spectrum may really help there.

I'd also advise you to tell him sooner rather than later that he is on the spectrum. I know you're his parent and you don't want to cause him anxiety or upset, for which I commend you, though if my parents had known when I was 11 I would have wanted them to tell me.

By age 11 I already knew I was different to everybody else, I just didn't know why. When I started secondary school (just before I turned 12) things really spiralled for me very quickly. Knowing could help him understand and cope better. If he knows, then he can understand himself better, and perhaps identify issues related to his ASD more easily, which means he could ask questions about it or explain what he's feeling without fear of nobody understanding him.