I can only tell you what intimacy is for me. I'm a very feeling and intuition-oriented guy, so intimacy to me is all about mutual feelings and deep connections. To me, intimacy isn't about doing anything physical... it isn't about making an effort. To me, intimacy is about feeling a mutual connection with the person you Love... It's about enhancing your partners emotional well-being and living in a state of romantic Love. Sharing romantic Love is the key to intimacy. I can't imagine it being possible for me to ever feel intimate with someone if I didn't feel deep romantic Love for them first. And, of course, that Love must be mutual. Intimacy is KNOWING that your partner Loves you and admires you and wants to please you as much as you feel those things towards them.

To me, experiencing intimacy might be as simple as my looking into the refrigerator and seeing that my wife made me a salad for my lunch before she went to work. To me, that never fails to move me. You see, I KNOW that my wife didn't have to do that. She did it to please me... and that brings me so close to her that it often chokes me up. It's intimate. She wanted to please me and she knows that it would... and I NEVER fail to let her know how much I appreciate her wonderful gesture and that it pleased me... which in turn pleases her. THAT is intimacy... THAT is romantic Love.

Dan