The relationship is the most important aspect for me. In order for me to open up, I have to trust the person. In order for me to trust, I have to feel safe. In order for me to feel safe, there has to be a mutual connection. In order for there to be a connection, the person has to be important. So I actually forced myself to make my T important to me. Yes, now I'm in that wonderful circle of I need my T, I'm too dependent on my T, I want to get away from my T, back to I need my T to now help me deal with her....lol. This isn't my first experience with this, so I at least am prepared somewhat, but it doesn't get any easier...