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Jan 02, 2014, 05:15 AM
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Originally Posted by _Mouse
It's your choice. You're aware that the relationship isn't functioning as it should. I think you seem to have enought awareness to move on.
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Originally Posted by Hawkspur
It does sound as though moving on might be a good thing, but it might be worth first trying to create some boundaries within the relationship. I suggest this for two reasons:
it may be possible to improve the therapeutic relationship, and still get what you need (note: not want  ) from it
it may make the process of withdrawing and changing to another T easier
I could be wrong, but I don't know that it will hurt to try pulling back a bit.
Whenever you go to call on the phone or email, ask yourself whether it can wait till the next session. Really try to do this.
Also ask yourself, is this therapeutic or friendship based? It is trickier to answer, but worth trying.
If the T notices and asks you about you pulling back, tell them you were concerned about turning the relationship into something other than a therapeutic one. If they are a good T, they will be understanding and supportive, and encourage independence. |
Thanks for this response, it offers good insight. I will begin to use some of these methods in the future before contacting her.
It's just hard because now I almost feel as if she is a part of my life and not just a therapist. So I don't know how to cope with losing that or moving on from it.
I feel as if my world will fall apart without her. It would probably make more sense if I could give details of stuff that has happened this year but I don't think anyone would care to read all of that so I left it out.
Honestly it's exhausting. 
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