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brillskep · Jan 02, 2014, 06:15 AM

Do you feel safe enough in your relationship with her that you can trust talking about what you've told us here, without necessarily having to change something right away? It might help to bring this awareness into the relationship and decide together what (if anything) to do about it for now.

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Originally Posted by Hopelessly Hopeful

I am struggling right now over boundaries with my Therapist.

But my problem is that there are not any. All of these realizations have been with me for a while, now; but they have become more apparent since joining this site and reading about other experiences.
I feel like I am in too deep at this point. I have seen her for about 10 months already, but it feels like a lifetime. We have been through a tremendous amount of life circumstances together. There have been moments where she realized she was one of the only people I could rely on and moments where she knew she was just a puzzle piece in my support system.

I am in my twenties and my T is the same age as my mom, who I've always had issues with and have even been estranged from a few times in my life. I feel like I instantly viewed my therapist as this mother-figure that I had been deprived of my whole life. I have had many women in my life but with her something just clicked ever since the first session.

It doesn't help that her approach is so humanistic. She gave me her personal # and said I could call when I felt I needed it. Somehow the texting communication came in to play as well. It started as strictly appointment scheduling changes/inquiries but moved eventually to talking about anything somehow.

There have been many other ways boundaries have been crossed from T/client relationship to some other uncategorized/unidentifiable relationship.

It's so confusing to me. The worst is now I'm too the point where I am so attached and used to the way things are that I think I would fall apart if things changed.

Our relationship has been healing but it has caused so many other problems for me.

Sorry this is all over the place but I needed to vent and talk about it. I feel so depressed right now and this is only making it worse.

Thanks for reading.