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Originally Posted by healingme4me
No, it's not easy, when transference reaches such a level. The T in hindsight, allowed for this boundary violation in giving you her personal #. And now, you are feeling your whole world would crash without her. Are you part of her life crisis', or was she just there for yours?
Message to T's...stop the madness, with allowing your personal time to be infringed upon. Don't know who or even where, but this is damaging.
No, it's not easy now, to walk away. You've bonded to her. Sounds like a frightening place to be. How hard, to get a new one? , remember, we can't buy friendship. Which is how to look at this.
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I agree. I do feel bitter that she allowed this because in the end, it is their responsibility to do everything possible to avoid unhealthy attachment and codependency.
I'm not sure if you're asking me if she has involved me with her personal issues or if that was a rhetorical question? Like maybe she is doing this to fill her own void?
She's been helping me through major crisis all year long. There has been so much help and so much of her time that was not paid for.
And now I'm not going to have insurance until next month and she offered to see me no charge until then. (And I go twice a week. She even has to stay way later than she would like to accommodate my work schedule)
So it does help to think in the context of "you can't buy friendship" but at the same time all of the boundary crossing really hasn't been paid for. She has even went out to eat with me after a session and paid for me.
This situation is super painful and tricky!
Thanks for the support.
-Hope