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Jan 02, 2014, 07:41 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Originally Posted by Hopelessly Hopeful
It's not that easy. Maybe you missed the part about the attachment and how far it has gotten before arriving to this realization?
I'm really hear for guidance and support and really looking to relate to people who are in the same boat or have possibly experienced something similar.
If it were as easy as "hmm this doesn't feel right, I think I need to move on..." I would never have stumbled upon this site or initiated discussion.
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I get this, I think. I had the same issue. It isn't easy to put up boundaries that the T doesn't set up.
If I had to do it over, I would ask her if we could talk about the boundaries and how I feel inside when this or that happens.
As an example - I LOVE being able to email you and that you respond. it makes me feel like you'll always be there. I wonder if this is good for me.
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When I'm allowed to do "x" sometimes I get physically sick. I don't undertsand why. I love my work with you. But something I'm not sure of.
would that help you? I don't know if it would help everyone. I don't even know if it would help me. I didn't try it. In thinking about it, it's what I decided I would do next time.
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