my husband and i have been married for 3-1/2 years but have been together for almost 10. we never really fight and usually have good communication. about two years ago i found some photos and videos that he had saved on our computer. i confronted him about them and said he would stop looking at those types of things but i know it's happened many times since then. it makes me feel very insecure and paranoid that he would rather have a woman like that than me. he said he sees it more as art and it's not because he is missing something from me. however, i'm not so sure. i'm not in the mood to be intimate very often so i feel like i'm pushing him into this. i know he is not seeing anyone else and i love him more than anything. i just don't know what to do. any thoughts??