My pdoc (who I also use for therapy) has been insensitive, but that's part of his personality. He is kind and sensitive, but is very direct and puts his foot in his mouth sometimes.

Once when I had been seeing him for about a year after my marital problems began I was talking about something (I can't remember specifically what now) and was admittedly becoming redundant. He got visibly aggravated and said "Fine, we're just going in circles here. What refills do you need?". My feelings were hurt and I didn't address it with him but did tell the female t I was seeing about it. She thought it was really rude and was going to say something to him, but then realized it should be me to speak up. Since I only go once a month, I was over it by the time I went back and still more insecure than I am now so I didn't say anything. We have a more open relationship now and I would definitely speak up if he was that flippant again.

Oh, and when I talked about getting a lawyer for divorce instead of a mediator he said, "It's stupid to use a lawyer! They only make it worse, use a mediator". I corrected him on that one. I explained I understood his point but for me it was not stupid as she was working pro bono and would help us both. He apologized and listened to me after that.

He does tend to think he is right about most things, but is respectful if you speak up and disagree and gladly considers other viewpoints. It works for me but some other patients have trouble with him sometimes.