Earlier in my therapy, when I was having a hard time understanding te boundaries, I said in a phone message, "I love you, and I don't understand why you can't love me." She responded, "If I can't help you, I will need to find somebody else who can." (No actual reply to what I'd asked.)

Another time, I asked her if it was OK for me to feel attached to her. She replied, "If it helps you to connect with you, then it's OK. Otherwise, it is contraindicated." She also once said, "It's OK as long as you don't anticipate receiving the same in return."

Since then, she claims she has changed her views on that. But I still get mixed messages from her.