While in the hospital as an adolescent (a very extended stay) there was a social worker that I had come to care about very much that was down-sized out of her job there.
I went into the Pdoc's office in tears and devastated by losing this support. The Dr. told me "this is her crisis, not yours. She is the one who is losing her job. Don't go about making crisis' for yourself where none exists."

That totally pissed me off at the time but later I realized that he was teaching me something. I was totally wrapped up in how her leaving was going to effect me and not thinking about how it must be for her.

He and his totally straight forward approach probably helped me more than anyone i had ever worked with. I learned that I really don't like it when someone just does the "oh, poor poor thing" routine with me. I like to know what they are really thinking and feeling.