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Originally Posted by Harley47
Sexual preoccupation? That seems...strange.  I don't know what would be considered "preoccupation"...I would argue most people are at least some degree preoccupied with sexual matters. Being twenty, you're probably "preoccupied" with it about as much as one would expect at that age, which...lol being right there with ya age wise, I know how that goes. 
In line with age, I think dumb sex joke and innuendos are pretty expected. I make them all the time myself among the guys, so...I don't see how that would be "abnormal" or anything.
I don't think your "sexual preoccupation" is anything out of line aside from a factor of age...I'm not going so far as to call your T flat out wrong or anything, as that's not my place to do so, but...you're twenty. Sexual thoughts is pretty front and center around that age.
As far as the sites go...just curious. 4chan, Reddit? Only two I can think of personally where you can find both average stuff and porn just sort of...there.
But lastly...good for you for viewing virginity the way you do.  I was going to offer that view before I read the parentheses, but you beat me to it. That's a healthy view for you to have, and I'm proud of you for it.
Hugs,
Harley
PS: I had forgotten...my Pokemon friend code is probably floating around Gamefaqs, so I'll PM you that in a bit. |
In my defense, she also made that comment after she ran a group where we had a massage train. I was uncomfortable with the idea of other people touching me, but I'm okay with her touching me and me touching other people so we set it up where she was the only one who could massage me. While she was rubbing my back, she said "don't be afraid to rub it harder or slower. Vary the speed" and I burst out laughing. Perhaps she was a little annoyed that I made her group awkward. It was an awkward group to begin with.
Tumblr and reddit. I'm not into really REALLY bizarre porn like 4chan haha
Virginity is a fairly useless social construct to me. There are too many differing ways to look at it. I consider losing your virginity to be the first time you have sex. Sex is always consensual because when it isn't, it's rape. There is no logical reason for me to change my opinion on it just because it became more personal.
Cool. I'll add me and you can add me back when you get the chance