Rhapsody,

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I am just so tired of people telling ME to get over it, for guys will always look

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Well- this is my opinion again--- which will probably get me in trouble-- but I do believe that someone needs to be an advocate-- here goes: I truly believe that guys will "look" as long as we as a culture are willing to accept that! If the culture wouldn't accept it-- it would not be nearly as prevalent. All this crock about men being "visual" creatures that "can't help themselves"-- is bull!(IMO) We are NOT the predators and them the vicitims!! Their brains work just like a females and culture has forced us to control our impulses-- so I think they are just as capable--or are women that much more evolved?-- I don't think so!

Something to think about.....oh, can I post this??
**-- Why, if ojectifying women is so acceptable in modern culture -- then, why aren't women regarded highly and with respect at strip clubs? Why are those places called "Gentlemens Clubs" where "gentlemen" go, but yet the women that work in them are often labled-- "tramps" and I won't even go into the more abusive names. Why is that? It's acceptable for one gender and not the other??..........

This really hits a nerve with me! I'm tired of women being degraded and blamed for the cultures ignorance and selfishness.

***-- I understand and know that there are men who don't partake in such primitive and degrading behavior-- they are what keeps me holding on to the goodness in humanity.

Rhapsody-- there are men out there that don't accept this behavior, sadly-- they're just very silent. (some reading here are probably thinking-- "Yea, they are the gay ones"-- NO!!-- there are straight men that don't accept objectifying another human being!)

I think the way to get some relief from being so upset may be to distract one's focus-- perhaps helping at an animal shelter, or volunteer at a woman's shelter-- it helps immensely to see just how many people have good hearts-- the one's that give and care. I'm not implying to get over your upset--- just lessen the focus for your own peace of mind. I'll never get over it-- and I would not expect you to.

I understand you and your pain-- if it would help, you can PM me and vent all you want.

Rhapsody-


mandy