Not a doctor, just a member and fellow panic-er.

I don't have expectations for an answer when I ask how you are doing... I really want to know. How are you doing?

It's so hard with teens. They do know everything, of course. (LOL).

What could be wrong with her witnessing your panic? It might really be scaring her, but she doesn't know how to express that. Do you talk about it afterwards when you're both calmer? Except for very young kids, who couldn't understand some things and should be shielded, I think it's a good thing for kids to see the real issues their parents face. That is part of life and they are getting ready to be living life independently and need to know the realities of it.

My son and I ended up in therapy together and separately when he was 16. Have you considered that? It's helpful for each person to have a neutral 3rd person. And they psychologist I wen to helped me with ideas on how to deal with my son more effectively and I was grateful for someone to listen to me (we had therapy sessions apart, too). We had screeching arguments too, and he pysically threatened me several times. Something had to be done.

So, how are you feeling now?

ECHOES