My daughter is suspected to be bipolar. She is enrolled in online public school due to her asthma and behavior problems. She is currently on ADHD meds that are clearly not working for her. She has a pdoc appointment next week (they will not see her sooner, I've been begging for months).

She is 11 and in 5th grade (supposed to be 6th). She is currently in a very down place... I can't even get her to shower. I'm having a hard time telling what is her being a spoiled brat and what is her being mentally ill. Needless to say, she has refused to do any schoolwork for the last week. I take things away, I try to bribe her, etc, I'm met with nothing but god awful tantrums, like a two year old would have. Flailing on the ground, screaming, hitting, throwing things, etc. These tantrums happen regardless of what mood she's in, they are just different with both moods...

Thankfully, the neighbors all know she has problems - it shows - or CPS would've been called by now. She almost never sleeps, despite being on 100-150mgs of trazadone each night.

I'm at my wits end with her. What the hell do I do?? Does anybody have any idea how to motivate someone to do schoolwork while they are in the depths of despair? Or some terrible manic hell? I can't even tell where she's at most days. I asked her and she said she's been sad all day, and angry that she can't sleep. Her pdoc only barely believes me that she's even having mood swings, chalking it up to age. She's been like this FOREVER.