Sometimes "playing" or "identifying" as the victim really hinders the healing process in therapy. Sometimes it takes a while to turn off this mind state though, especially when you have gone trough things that justify you feeling this way. The difference is, you were a victim then... Your not a victim now. When you learn how to differentiate the two emotions, you will be able to process it with a whole new perspective and it will open up brand new material for you and your T to work on.
Playing the victim mentality in your current life will not help anything. You have the power to make changes and to lead your life in the direction you wish to go.
As long as you keep the "victim mentality" you are not allowing yourself control of your life and actions. You deserve that and to be happy!
Hope this helps.
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Originally Posted by Freewilled
I'm just wondering how long it's ok to complain or cry about past stuff or even present challenges in life....what is the difference between a person in pain crying for some support/help and someone allowing themselves to play the victim? If your T implied you had a victim-mentality, how would you respond? If one is being a victim, how do they just stop it?
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-Hope