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Originally Posted by newtus
i talked to him about it. i asked how does it make him feel when i do it in his presence. he says he feels left out of "the party" or basically doing what everyone else is doing. but when i got more beer today he wanted some again.
i just dont want to feel like i cant do it caus he cant. but i feel like i have to.
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Well, maybe you have to for a short time, not forever.
maybe in time he wont' feel that way any more, but just to get passed the initial stages. For examle my MIL always tries to quit smoking, she struggles on her own and neither me or my husband smoke. But, if her brother or my BIL come around they both smoke she smokes 10x more than normal. She just can't handle it at all if they are around.
Does he have any outside support for helping him through this, like AA or something? I know for me I do better exercising going walking with these two ladies at work. Even though sometimes they piss me off with their points of view on certain things, as long as we stay off topics like politics and keep to shallow topics it works out okay. And I
need to walk. I can't stay fat and get diabetes and die from a heart attack.
But I struggle doing it on my own.