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Originally Posted by Emily6166
i would never marry for money. Love obviously always comes first. However, I would prefer a lifestyle that i'm already accustomed to.
In your efforts to not sound shallow you are contradicting yourself and also not making much sense. You broke up with him BECAUSE he's not rich. Which means you didn't give love a chance, so love doesn't and cannot come first. Love is only entertained when money is part of the equasion
I can fall in love with a well-off man too (well-off, not necessarily rich). So, why should I settle for this guy if I do not truly love him yet?
Well you shouldn't. Nobody said settle, if you mean "settle" as in build a foundation, imo you're much too young. But if you think of being with him as "settling", then he's better off without you, because he was right and you do think he's beneath you.
If I do end up with this guy, I would not want to miss out on time with my kids, since I would be working hard to support all of us.
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And this last statement I quoted is exactly why he lashed out at you. You assume because he hasn't completed his schooling yet, that he won't. You assume that he doesn't strive toward the best in life and that he is satisfied with the mundane. You assume that he will not be able to feed your kids with a silver spoon and also assume that you will have to do all the hard work in order to.
Again, in reality love doesn't come first for you, its just the appropriate thing to say. Please understand that I'm not judging you or even trying to be mean. All I'm saying is, be honest with yourself. You refuse to entertain love if it doesn't come wrapped in $ signs.
This is perfectly ok, its your life, your values, your standards, and your choices. Just try to be real about the fact that you place a lot of value in how many zeros are in a man's bank account, as it will save yourself and any prospective partners a lot of grief along the way..