I think it is the first step to learning a new language. One can't understand and feel in control of one's emotions without the vocabulary. We have had all these feelings swirling around but not tried to understand and name them. Our first attempts are going to be messy I think eventually they sort themselves out and we start to be able to use them; we start to be able to say, "Oh, that one is the same as what happened over there and this one happened 20 years ago when mother made me cry when it wasn't my fault, so maybe what is happening now is not really my fault like I thought?. . ."