Playing the victim is a defense. It works well enough to get us what we want at first but is not working so well anymore. One can't just drop/change it, it has to be replaced with better habits. Practice/learn to see what your T sees when she mentions "you're doing it again" or whatever she says so you can catch yourself. Then call your own bluff, "Oh, I was wanting some comfort right now, this stuff is so very hard!" and give yourself a break! No one labels/calls us names to make us feel bad, they are either trying to help or are trying to make themselves feel good by making us feel bad (and there the accent is on themselves, not us). With my T I learned to make a blanket assumption she was trying to help me in some way and looked to see what it was and when I had trouble understanding, I learned to ask her about it.