Thoughts are all in our heads? That means they are "imagined". When we worry about stuff, it is always about what is going to happen in the future and no one knows that so one can learn to practice deliberately thinking good thoughts instead of worried ones? I kind of did that with T, too. We get this imagined image of what T is like and what might happen if we say/tell them X or Y? Well, I just arbitrarily decided T was going to be helpful and I started looking for that. Because our thoughts direct what we look for? If we think something bad is going to happen, we look for something bad to happen and then when something/anything happens, we know to label it "bad" because that is what we are looking for? Just say to yourself, "T is trying to be helpful, that is what I am paying him for". So, even when he is not helpful or you perceive him as hurtful or scary, you can then accent the "trying" and give him "credit" for that, think, "Gee, this stuff is really hard, I'm glad I have T on my side" instead of "T cannot help me, I'm a loser".

When I was trying to learn about "touch" I had a breakthrough getting my hair cut? I get a little anxious going to get it cut (Hair Cuttery, only once or twice a year :-) and so I decided to practice there? I deliberately thought of my head in the beautician's hands as she was shampooing my hair, how good the warm water felt and how strong and supporting her hands felt cradling my head, etc.? It seems such a small thing but not if you pay attention to it? Think of how she "could" get soap in your eyes or accidentally bang your head against the side of the basin or have the water too hot or cold and not ask, "Does that feel okay?" or could be rough and pull your hair. She "cares" and does her job well for you. T's are like hairdressers