Here's my never ever humble opinion...sex between adults should feel good before, during, and after. And long after. If it doesn't, then something is not right. If that become a pattern, then something is seriously not right, and down right self-destructive.

I think a lot of women go through a period in our youth, when we experiment sexually, and perhaps do things we would not repeat later in life. But, we can look back on, and perhaps be a bit embarrassed, but all in all, just laugh about. If you think your current actions don't fit that category, if you think you are hurting your self-esteem, damaging yourself in any way...yes, please talk to a T about it.

I was really embarrassed to admit my sexual history to my T - but once I did, I was really relieved. He has heard a lot worse than my story, and I'm sure your T has heard worse than your story.

Ghost...we want you to treat yourself with love, respect, and gentle kindness. And we want the people who are by your side to do the same. Now, that's not to say that fun is illegal! But fun needs to be safe, and with people who are respectful, caring, and will be there the next day to hold you tight with snuggles.

(((((Ghost!!)))))

Emmy