Something happened at my last session a few days ago that really made a difference for me this week in real life. Towards the end of the session, T said something, fairly benign, not a major interpretation at all. We didn't discuss it or anything, it was just a comment. But it really provoked something deep in me later. That comment caused me to change something really important in my current relationship, to set a firm boundary with my SO, which I have had trouble doing for many years. (In general, I am not good at setting boundaries in my relationships.) It's been kind of amazing for me. Like a breakthrough. And all because of this one comment from T at our session that triggered that reaction in me. He has no idea.

I know we read a lot here in this forum about the many challenges of our therapies, like how to open up to our T's, share with them, get what we need out of our sessions, deal with their silence or our transference, how we can feel rejected and hurt and angry when they cancel our appointments, and more. I can so relate to all those things. But here is this really positive thing that came out of therapy for me totally unexpectedly. T and I were not working directly on this issue. I would love to hear people's examples of similar occurrences--therapy "events" that provoked positive change.

sunny