I'm sorry that you are feeling so bad and feeling stuck. That is an awful place to be. Is your T a CBT? Can you give us an example of how she basically said you were selfish?

My friends moved away too, then I made more, then they moved away. Then I moved away. Separation pain is so painful. My T said this is so deeply painful for me to experience. I have a really hard time letting myself get close too, but then once I do, I consistently feel anxious and want to be with them all the time. Did you feel this way too with old T? It's like you finally, finally find someone you trust and who feels safe and who you have a strong connection with, it can be intoxicating.

I think renumerating about old T is a natural reaction for the state you are in, but it can hold you back too. Talking to the right person, someone who you can depend on, can really help. Old T can't be there anymore. I wish there was something you can do about this-maybe do long-distance sessions via Skype? Being anxious all the time has a way of making it seem your "life is going to waste". So true.