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Originally Posted by canyouhearmenow
Hi!
I am brand new to these forums, just looking for the right place for me...have had a broad spectrum of issues over the years, my life is in balance now but depression/anxiety issues are creeping back in.
I am 30, married 2.5 years, work full time, have 2 dogs, 2 cats. My husband and I are pretty much ready for kids...I had surgery in August and need to wiat a couple more months.
I have some concerns and am looking for support/encouragement/sympathy/acknowledgement....I don't know.
1. My sex drive is non-existant. I don't know how I am going to get knocked up if I don't find a way to not get anxious about sex (didn't used to be this way, I thought I was insecure about my body and got myself into incredible shpe, still feel insecure....)
2. I have a medical phobia. Ugh. Just can't shake it, it makes me so ashamed of myself - I went to a new OB/GYN and he actually asked if I was molested as a child because I became so nervous....I faint from blood work and always think the bio hazard box is going to dump out on me....totally logical, right?
3. I am scared of post-partum depression - has anyone here ever worked on a plan for dealing with this? I feel like i want to have a "backup plan' just in case I can't cope after giving birth.
Wow, I am a bundle of fun, huh?
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me and you have so much in common for #1 I think the best approach for you is to try some natural aphrodisiac methods and put on some sexy lingerie or go shopping to bring up your self esteem! It truly doesn't matter what you look like you could be Miss universe and still loathe yourself because its all about self-love. Every bit of confidence you feel will reflect outward and radiate from the inside :-)
2. Having a medical phobia is definitely not uncommon no one likes to be probed and prodded in a intimidating place full of the uncertainty of what may or may not happen. But its a fear that can be conquered with some newfound confidence if followed by #1 ;-).
3. I've seen some incredible women bounce back from post partum hormonal changes simply because they give themselves reasonable goals about coming back to their normal body and getting plenty of rest & relaxation. Here at pc is a great forum to share experiences so that the more knowledge you gain the more likely you'll be at ease <3.