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Originally Posted by Freewilled
If I was playing the victim, it would mean I'm very displeasing to my T and wasting his/my time. Also, that I am a crappy person  writing that out loud sounds bad, I know, but I think that's the conclusion I would come to.
I'm not sure about the guilt. I do feel guilty a lot but I'm not sure how to place it. It's related to a lot of things. One though, is feeling guilty for being a "difficult" client and not getting better faster or enough or doing it right. Sorry but I don't know what you mean by your last sentence. What do you mean by think of cause and effect? |
I meant that if you felt guilty or wrong by 'complaining', that you could think of it in terms of cause and effect. For example, children who are neglected can sometimes grow up needy and insecure; this could be thought of as a cause and effect relationship (or correlation) instead of thinking or saying - my parents were horrible. Identifying and understanding causes of why you feel the way you do....But after reading your reply, it doesn't seem that this has much to do with your situation.
When I'm afraid my T will not like it if I do this or that, it usually has roots in fear of rejection or fear of abandonment. Does that sound possible in your case? It's just so many things come down to that, so I would not be the least bit surprised....