What a great idea for a thread :-)

I love moments like that :-)

I had something happen just before christmas. an inter-personal situation that was very unpleasant. 6 months ago i would have lost the plot completely, for a time. i really would have taken an OD or (probably most likely) packed a few things and fled. Did a fugue type thing or similar.

But... Something he said occurred to me. When I told him about how a. gets involved (sexually) with people sometimes... he said 'maybe it is about intimacy'. and although he didn't say this i got to thinking about how i push people away which results in my being lonely which results in my having sexual encounters. and i had thought about that...

And somehow in this situation i managed to realise that they were being mean about me because they thought i didn't like them because they felt like i was pushing them away. and i was. out of fear.

and somehow i managed to really hold that in mind.

and i didn't even need to take a valium. and... since then... i've been a lot more intentionally kind and accepting to the people who were involved.

and...

it is paying off.

:-)