Hello jimm38!

Well... after reading your post I was struck by one major thing. You seem to be completely preoccupied by your appearance. While your appearance plays a role in presenting yourself to a prospective partner, it isn't nearly as important as many other factors.

A case in point. I knew a fellow that was homlier than a mud fence. I mean, he was about the ugliest man I'd ever met. Yet, he was always surrounded by beautiful women. Actually, he ended up marrying a very beautiful woman. Even though he was not the least bit physically attractive, he had something else going for him that drew people to him. He didn't just draw women to him, but men and women alike. He was a delightful person to be around in every way possible... except maybe for his looks. He had incredible charisma. After being around him for a short time people didn't even notice his appearance any more because he was able to immediately win them over by showing people who he REALLY was inside.

So, looks count, but they aren't everything. As far as whether or not women would be interested in you judging solely by your picture, well, unless you're a real knockout, what did you expect? If you're just average looking and they don't know you from a box of rocks, why would they be interested? What have you done to create interest? What have you done to make them WANT to know you? As far as they're concerned, you're just another face of another guy that's desperate for a woman to go out with. For heaven's sake, of course no one is going to be interested! You've done nothing to dazzle them. And, my friend, women LIKE to be dazzled... if not dazzled, they certainly want to be thoroughly captivated. That holds true whether you're presenting yourself in person or only in a picture. You have to make them want to know more about you. Without that, you're going to end up going down in flames every time.

I don't think it's your face that's causing women to choose to look elsewhere. You said that you've asked out hundreds of women but that all of them rejected you. If that's the case, may I suggest that perhaps it's your approach instead of your looks that's doing you in? I'm quite certain that of all of the women you asked out, ALL of them were not so shallow that they judged you solely on your looks. So, that tells me that something else is going on. I don't think your face is repulsing women. I think it's your approach, your demeanor, perhaps you lack of self confidence and the whole way you present youself. I'm not trying to be mean here at all. This is just my perception of you based only on what I read in your post.

There was one thing you said that perplexed me. You said, I had a photo of me rated by almost 100 women. All of them agreed that, while I'm average, “OK” looking, none would date me or find me attractive whatsoever. Again, I was literally dumbfounded, as these women were mostly average looking.

Once again you're assigning a persons worth based on how they look. What does a woman's looks have to do with whether or not they find you attractive? I would say that if you have that sort of mindset when you talk with women, it's no wonder you end up going home by yourself!

You said, "I have come to the conclusion that there must be something very wrong with my face. I suspect that I suffer from some mental illness and this shows on my face. Would you agree with this assumption?"

I don't know what your face looks like so I can't really comment on that. I DO know that unless you have some sort of dreadful deformity of some kind, your physical appearance is probably not the reason that women all tend to shy away from you. Likewise, I believe it to be unlikely that your mental state would be a significant factor in what your face looks like.

When women tell you that you're "not their type", they aren't telling you they don't like the way you look. They're most likely telling you that you haven't done anything to draw their interest or make them feel special. They didn't feel comfortable with your demeanor or your personality.

I suspect that what I said here may sound harsh to you, but it's my honest opinion of the situation as you presented it.

I wish you the very best. I hope you find the contentment you're seeking.

Dan