I find it professional courtesy, to keep the door open, for return. Perhaps, the detached attitude towards her, is a sign of growth? Knowing you need to work through things, yet, it's not about her, per se??
Sometimes, healthier behavior patterns, feel uncomfortable, at first, because that's not how we were to begin with, dealing with any aspect of dysfunction?

Just a thought, reading your wonderments.

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