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Old Jan 04, 2014, 07:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Freewilled View Post
Growlithing - I'm sorry if this post upset you in any way. I should've used the trigger icon. I don't remember the exact term my T used, but it was about me being a victim/acting like one or whatever. I have a problem of losing the time we spend and not remembering a lot of the sessions. Almost like they are jumbled up in my mind and I can't make sense of what just happened. So I can't remember exactly what was said.....

I liked your example about the guy from group. I can see that as being an example and it makes sense. I don't think I do that kind of thing. Perhaps I should ask my T for clarification

Again, I'm sorry if my post was hurtful to you in any way.

Freewilled
Well, the topic reminded me of when people have said that to me in the past and that made me angry, but that isn't your fault and it's not even a bad thing. It was refreshing for me to express my opinion on this topic. Accessing some internal anger isn't actually a bad thing in my mind. So I wasn't hurt by this topic, but let's pretend that somehow I was. There was no way you could have predicted that a topic as innocent as this one would upset anyone. You can't be held responsible for everyone else's triggers because honestly, doing that would be ridiculous. I mean, one of my biggest triggers is footsteps. I can't be upset or offended with people just for walking and I also can't expect people to shout "TRIGGER WARNING" before their heel hits the ground. (Actually that would be even more upsetting yet really funny to picture)

I'm not saying that life is triggering and therefore we on this site shouldn't bother with trigger labels. If this post were about something graphic or something conventionally triggering, then yeah you should warn people. I'm just saying that you can't blame yourself for bringing up an innocent topic and someone happens to get offended. That's on that person for projecting their issues onto the situation. I don't believe people have a right to not be offended anyway.

Anyway, I think you should ask your T for clarification. I would.
Thanks for this!
Freewilled