I think it's possible for you to start over with a new T. You need to tell each prospective T what you posted here, and ask how they will help you trust them? If you go with your gut feeling, then it can work. If neither T seems right, then say that, and have your T look for someone else.

You CAN do this. It's not easy, but you can. I started over with a new T after 6 years with one, and she (my current T) has been wonderful. It's not totally like starting over because you've learned some things about yourself from the other therapies. Be honest with your T and with the ones she is suggesting. I wish you luck.