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Originally Posted by Blastedmoron
I've tried having sex with her twice already. The first time I had had a drink before I went, and I could barely get hard. (I found out later that alcohol is not good). Although I did get hard once, but as soon as I put on the condom I lost it.
The second time around I had abstained from masturbating for a couple days, I had no medication or alcohol and I was able to get erect in foreplay but as soon as I put the condom on I lost it again. More foreplay was able to get me erect again, with the condom on, and then when I tried penetrating I wasn't hard enough to put it in and I lost my erection again. I'm lucky that she is very patient and understanding and I've been doing research to why this is happening. So far, the best results are performance anxiety but if this is true, how do I become less anxious?
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My boyfriend is uncircumcised and I know condoms were something he hated when he was younger. I think since you are uncut, they may decrease your sensitivity a bit. I also know that if we've had lots and lots of sex, his penis will get sore too.
Insofar as to your nerves, I'd take it slow. Make your session something that goes from kissing to touching to grinding and the sex. What I'm saying is, if you make it about the intimacy between the two of you, and less about just sex, you can lessen your nerves.
Sex is learning experience, don't put the pressure of being the best ever on yourself. If your sexual relationship continues, you'll learn more of what each other likes.
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