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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
Sometimes I might say something that I think should lead in to more discussion and then it doesn't and the conversation goes another way.
I don't think it's my T downplaying things though. For me, it's that *I* downplay things! I don't make it clear enough that I find it important. I don't think I word everything in a way that would lead to more discussion. If I do say something that's somehow got an opening to continue then he's pretty good at following with that topic (and then bringing it back up the next week when I'm not expecting it!).
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This is true for me too, except that T very rarely brings things up in following sessions (it's really unusual that he brings up topics at all.) I never know what is important or not and am constantly worried that I'm wasting T's time with unimportant topics. I would never ever have been as brave as Auntie2014 and told a T in the second session that what they said made me uncomfortable - I would have taken it for granted that the things I tried to bring up were not worth talking about. But - completely illogically - I sometimes feel disappointed when T doesn't pick up on something I say.
My exT was the queen of downplaying things. I told her that I cannot talk to my H and she said "maybe you should try doing that", I told her that I was procrastinating at work to the point where I couldn't sleep for worrying about the things I didn't do and she said "maybe you should try getting things done"... I'm paraphrasing here, but that was the gist of what she said, and it was not helpful for me at all.