I went decades without a diagnosis. When I was diagnosed with DID I was at first ok with it. Than the enormity of it hit me and I denied it. I went back and forth from acceptance to denial and back as I worked with my therapist. Eventually we all came to realize that the diagnosis is only a starting point and does not define us. We all think it is best to integrate so we can live and feel our life as it is happening. We need to free some of the others from the pain from the past. And we can do that with help from our t. It's a process that you do at your own pace. And you don't have to accept the diagnosis until you are ready. But it is good to continue with therapy while deciding the direction you want your life to go in. Most therapist don't expect patients to immediately accept a diagnosis no matter what it might be. I didn't like the term "little's" so I told my therapist and she stopped using the term. If you don't like the term "system" call them parts or family or something that everyone can agree on. Let your therapist know what works for all of you and what don't. It took me a little time to warm up to the term "system" but that is how we function. It does not define who the parts are but we all function as a system to survive in the world. This site gave and gives me a lot of support and comfort but I still need a therapist to help us understand who we are and why we are here. The time I have spent in therapy has enabled me to appreciate my parts and what it took to get this far in life. I hope some of this helps. Take care.