I would get wound up also as I can't really see how someone can understand unless they have it themselves. I have been told to 'just snap out of it', 'look on the bright side' and so forth.....none of this obviously works :/

That's why I come here for advice, the ppl here actually understand what it is I'm talking about. People IRL may want to help but more than often than not, really, they don't understand.